Dear Ruby,
Hey sweetie! I finally got a couple pictures of you in the mail today!!! Well, I think they are both you, one is kind of old, you and your mom maybe at a pier. The other is what appears to be Seth and you in Halloween costumes, you have a mask covering your face (kind of funny it was the other way last year). Not quite sure what you guys are dressed as, super creepy though. I’m just grateful to get any pictures of you.
Last week in my Positive Parenting class our instructor read a letter one of her clients wrote to her father she hadn’t seen in years. It was rough, she was very angry with him for not being there and making her feel abandoned. A few weeks later the lady had written a follow-up letter to her father, she was still upset but it helped her to get out her anger and she was able to begin working on rebuilding her relationship with her father.
The point was it is important for me to know you might be upset with me, you might say some really hurtful things when I finally get to see you again. It is a part of the grieving process. The most important thing is to make sure you know that it is no way your fault that I’ve been gone. I hope that my actions show better than my words that I am truly remorseful for the time I haven’t been there for you and for not being the person I should have been when I was there.
I hope you have a great Thanksgiving! What is your favorite thing to eat on Thanksgiving? I really like those pumpkin rolls Grandma Babe makes!! I love you and miss you so very much. And remember, God made you special and He loves you very much!
Love,
Daddy
Letters to Ruby 